Thursday, 12 December 2013

because I have so many times to waste...


It's a day after the 111213 date. I should have write something yesterday but I don't. It's been a week I have wasting my time again doing nothing and still. However, times will always flies and we only have less than 3 weeks before we end this 2013 year. Well, as usual I'm mumbling again. Ever since my last post in here, I have so many things to write but then I forgot. Maybe I should just write without thinking. Speaking of think, I always want to write about love, sex and marriage. These three things not bothering me at all but I have no clue why people around me keep talking about these. Yesterday, I had a conversation with my friend, a guy to be specific. He is on his way to meet his future in law this weekend. Like I give a damn at all, but the thing that's bothering me in our conversation was how he told me that I wouldn't leave a bedroom after I getting married. For god sake, marriage is not just about sex! Can't people sometimes use their brain? I'm not sure if he didn't mean what he said or he was just trying to use his lame sense of humor, but seriously. In another story, my mom had a visit to her hometown last weekend and she gossips about my cousin who is 6 years younger than me and having her second child now. I was just “wow, she has no life!”. It’s not like I questioning someone's fate that God has written or whatsoever. And I'm pretty sure that it is not fate at all. It's a choice that you made. In this case, she made. Lack of sex education in our country is one of the causes this such case happened. This is not my first cousin that pregnant before she gets married. Luckily, she doesn't drop her baby in a dustbin or bury it alive like most cases in the newspaper. 

I still remember, I have a best friend (a girl) and she does not know what a condom looks like. It's just shocking! I mean, it is okay to be naive sometimes but this kind of thing that will lead to this whole problem, don't you think? Sometimes loving someone too much and willing to give anything to her partner is another cause of this problem too. Believe me, I have seen some of these cases. So, having sex before getting married is quite normal in our society now even though it's not supposed to happen since this is not our culture and definitely a sin. But is by getting married will solve everything? If you ask me, I will simply answer no. I know some people that try to solve this kind of problem by getting married. And some of them suffer because they're not ready to start a family. Worse, they have a baby right after they get married (on a first trial probably, lol). In this kind of case, should we blame fate too? Sometimes I feel how lucky I am because I am not involved with any of these no matter how alone I look. It's not wrong to fall in love and of course when you love someone, you want to have sex and get married. But please use brain before do anything stupid because once you took a wrong step, you never can't turn it back. (I still don't know why I give an advice at the end of my post. haha)

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