Most relationships seem so transitory
They're all good but not the permanent one
Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone?
They're all good but not the permanent one
Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone?
"Soulmate" by Natasha Beddingfield. And there is another one from his brother "If you're not the one". Both songs are about the same thing; soulmate which is also known as 'the one'. I actually type in Google "how to know he is the one" before writing this post. And here are my thoughts and story since every single source that I read is not as same as mine. Most of magazine or internet sources stated that he/she is the one if bla, bla and bla. Which for me is the basic things in a relationship. Being in a relationship or having a bf / gf doesn't mean that person is the one for you. Even if you're married to someone. And that's why people get divorced. I watched so many fail and successful relationship as I live. It happens around me, with my siblings and my friends.
It doesn't matter how long you'll be with someone. Times doesn't count. Couple that in love for 6 years can break up in anytime, marriage for 10 years not work as it suppose to be, stranger for 5 minutes can be so madly in love and stay together till the end of life time. As people said, "if it's gonna be, so its gonna be". Well, it's kinda true since you don't know your fate or destiny. But we can't depend on fate only. Sometimes we have to find our own destiny and make our own fate. It is actually too general to describe about the one and to recognize if that person is your made in heaven after all. But since we're still on the topic, so how the one work? The one doesn't get away like what Katy Perry describes in her song. If he/she is the one for you, you'll never give up on them. You will fight till your last blood. Ok, maybe that's too far. But even the person dies, he/she will still remain in your heart and your memory like in the 'Up' movie. You will try as hard as you can and fight for the relationship. And of course this thing will not work if only one side puts an effort while the other side just sit around and watch your partner struggling in your relationship. Beside trust, teamwork also important in a relationship.
My past relationship taught me a lot of things. He could be my the one except I gave up on us so easily. I don't even try to fight for us. But that was an old me which is not mature as I'm now. Yup, I'm totally blaming myself for that. Hey, what's past is past. Even sometimes I wish that I can meet him for the last time and dream about we can be back together again like before, but that's not going to be happening. He hates me and I'm pretty sure that he is not my the one. If you asked me about how I know my the one, I'm not just knowing. My the one is not necessary has to be Mr. Perfect or my dream guy. He isn't perfect at all but I don't even notice what is less about him. I won't search his weaknesses and I don't care if he has 10 or more. I can just fall in love with him easily even I haven't met him yet and he does not have to try anything to impress me. I'll know that he is the one for me when I stop searching for another man and do not compare him with any other guys that I've dated. It is not that hard if you read my descriptions about my the one. But still, it is hard for me to meet him...till now. To be honest, I almost give up on his existing. I think I still do.
Sometimes I just want to assume that maybe he is in heaven now after hit by a lorry. And today, I realize that there is no hope at all. I try to convince myself that my the one is on his way as fast as he can to meet me, but then it keeps hurting me. I can say all these words as an advice to you "Have a little faith. Believe in the destiny. Don't give up on love. Love is meant to be hurt but it's still the most beautiful feeling when you can feel it." But after all, I'm the one that doesn't believe in those. People can die because of love. I just don't want to be that type of people. I have had enough of all these things. So, for others that still wonder if the person you be with now is your the one or not, sit down and asked your heart. Because when it comes to emotion or feeling, heart work better than brain. Don't get over thinking. Appreciate what you have cause love doesn't comes usually. Listen to your heart and do the best to see where this relationship goes. Maybe it's worth to give a try when it comes to love especially maybe that person is the one for you. Just in case, always prepare for the risk of getting hurt and the broken heart. Hey, everything comes with risk in this life, right? So, if it is worth...why not? After all, you never know if you never try. Like what Pink sings in her song "you've gotta get up and try".
It doesn't matter how long you'll be with someone. Times doesn't count. Couple that in love for 6 years can break up in anytime, marriage for 10 years not work as it suppose to be, stranger for 5 minutes can be so madly in love and stay together till the end of life time. As people said, "if it's gonna be, so its gonna be". Well, it's kinda true since you don't know your fate or destiny. But we can't depend on fate only. Sometimes we have to find our own destiny and make our own fate. It is actually too general to describe about the one and to recognize if that person is your made in heaven after all. But since we're still on the topic, so how the one work? The one doesn't get away like what Katy Perry describes in her song. If he/she is the one for you, you'll never give up on them. You will fight till your last blood. Ok, maybe that's too far. But even the person dies, he/she will still remain in your heart and your memory like in the 'Up' movie. You will try as hard as you can and fight for the relationship. And of course this thing will not work if only one side puts an effort while the other side just sit around and watch your partner struggling in your relationship. Beside trust, teamwork also important in a relationship.
My past relationship taught me a lot of things. He could be my the one except I gave up on us so easily. I don't even try to fight for us. But that was an old me which is not mature as I'm now. Yup, I'm totally blaming myself for that. Hey, what's past is past. Even sometimes I wish that I can meet him for the last time and dream about we can be back together again like before, but that's not going to be happening. He hates me and I'm pretty sure that he is not my the one. If you asked me about how I know my the one, I'm not just knowing. My the one is not necessary has to be Mr. Perfect or my dream guy. He isn't perfect at all but I don't even notice what is less about him. I won't search his weaknesses and I don't care if he has 10 or more. I can just fall in love with him easily even I haven't met him yet and he does not have to try anything to impress me. I'll know that he is the one for me when I stop searching for another man and do not compare him with any other guys that I've dated. It is not that hard if you read my descriptions about my the one. But still, it is hard for me to meet him...till now. To be honest, I almost give up on his existing. I think I still do.
Sometimes I just want to assume that maybe he is in heaven now after hit by a lorry. And today, I realize that there is no hope at all. I try to convince myself that my the one is on his way as fast as he can to meet me, but then it keeps hurting me. I can say all these words as an advice to you "Have a little faith. Believe in the destiny. Don't give up on love. Love is meant to be hurt but it's still the most beautiful feeling when you can feel it." But after all, I'm the one that doesn't believe in those. People can die because of love. I just don't want to be that type of people. I have had enough of all these things. So, for others that still wonder if the person you be with now is your the one or not, sit down and asked your heart. Because when it comes to emotion or feeling, heart work better than brain. Don't get over thinking. Appreciate what you have cause love doesn't comes usually. Listen to your heart and do the best to see where this relationship goes. Maybe it's worth to give a try when it comes to love especially maybe that person is the one for you. Just in case, always prepare for the risk of getting hurt and the broken heart. Hey, everything comes with risk in this life, right? So, if it is worth...why not? After all, you never know if you never try. Like what Pink sings in her song "you've gotta get up and try".
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